Category: Self-Care

What if the Key to World Peace Is Your Personal Relationship to Your Body?
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Hello dear friends and lovers of pleasure, health and vitality!

It’s been over two years since I published a blog post and I confess I’ve missed the conversation with you very much.

But OH! I’ve taken such great pleasure in the freedom from forced screen time.

I promised myself that when I came back to sharing reflections and lessons from my journey with you, it would be without an ounce of pressure, and wow, do I take my promises seriously.

Hence the hiatus and hopefully also your confidence that whatever I write, no matter how simple or strange it may land, is coming from my heart with lightness and a love of life eager to be shared.

I invite you to take it as poetry rather than science. Or just the opposite! As proposals for scientific experiments in search of personal laboratories like yourself. You are the scientist, your life the laboratory, and this a place to share your observations and results… comments and private messages are welcome!

[spacer height=”10px”]Here’s an experiment to try on yourself…[spacer height=”5px”]

…though, I confess it may take a lifetime and requires serious dedication. (Serious, by the way, is one of my best and worst traits, it’s the secret to my health and also to my sickness. So take serious with a grain of salt and do it your way.)

The hypothesis is simple, it’s written in the headline and goes like this:

[blockquote]The answer to world peace is to be found in you and you alone, and the key is in observing and transforming the way you relate to your physical organism, aka your body.[/blockquote]

Underlying this hypothesis are three fundamental philosophies:
1. Your body IS your mind
2. The outer is a reflection of the inner is a reflection of the outer (aka the part reflects the whole, microcosm=macrocosm)
3. Love is the answer and you are the Source (click the link for info on an upcoming workshop!)
[spacer height=”10px”]Peace is a way of being, not a way of thinking. It’s an action, not an idea.[spacer height=”5px”]

You can think you want peace all day long, but if you’re waging war against your own impulses, habits and desires, or even worse, against the very essence of who you are, then your actions are violent and you’re living in battle mode.

That’s not to say that you should give in to every habit you’ve formed or act on every desire and impulse that arises. Peace is not submission.

Peace is acknowledgement, dialogue, and a willingness to be transformed.

That last one – that’s the kicker. There’s a difference between seeking transformation and a willingness to experience it. When we’re seeking, we can have a sense of what we might find and a feeling of being in control.

But to be transformed? You have to let go of who you think you are and what you think you want and open yourself to the experience of seeing and feeling from an entirely different perspective.

You may as well call transformation death. And who in their right mind goes out seeking death?!

Death is not for the faint of heart. But neither is birth, and here you are born and living, and as sure as you are born you will die – at least your body will.

Peace, I propose, begins when you acknowledge and make space for death in your life.

And I further propose that how you choose to eat, sleep, spend the greater portion of your time, exert yourself and care for yourself (or not) has more to do with your relationship to death than to health.

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I assure you that if you enter into a more peaceful dialogue with your incredible body that’s bound for death, your health will flourish.

For women, peaceful dialogues with our body can be especially challenging. I’ll skip the discussion of sociopolitical and religious reasons for this at the moment and simply refer you to guiding philosophy #2, i.e. as without so within… I’ll be back in another post with more to say, that’s a promise. Meanwhile, look to mother nature and the environmental crisis we’re facing for clues of what we’re individually facing within.

Women aren’t alone here. We’ve all been trained to look for our sense of self-worth in the image we project out to the world and we spend a lifetime waging war on our multi-dimensional, embodied being trying to beat it into submission and create a flattened image we think will earn us a place in the world. No wonder we feel stiff and tired, heavy with pain and bruised by our own emotions.

[spacer height=”10px”]When you’re working too hard and resting too little, when you’re eating without pleasure and moving without feeling, when you’re ignoring your pain and silencing your emotions, you’re in the war zone.[spacer height=”5px”]

On the flip side, when you’re giving yourself the rest you need, sacrificing productivity for some play, taking time to acknowledge and attend to your pain, making safe space in your life for feeling emotional, you are doing nothing less than contributing to world peace.

You’re also cultivating peace at home and at work and giving health the right conditions to crop up as a byproduct you didn’t have to struggle and toil for.

So remember to eat with pleasure! Because, you know, death. And peace!

[spacer height=”10px”]And as for moving with feeling…[spacer height=”5px”]

You may be wondering what the hoo ha that means? Maybe you’re even sensing a longing to know more?

This is where the work of coming into a more peaceful relationship with your body begins, and this is the exercise I’ll leave you with:

Beginner: Whenever you notice that you’re moving (ha ha! that’s a joke!) try to also notice what you feel. For example, can you feel the floor? Or your clothes? Certain muscles moving (or hurting)? Certain bones? Are you making contact with objects or people? What are you sensing? Notice sensation, but don’t lose track of noticing that you’re moving. Also, don’t shy from pain or ignore pleasure, they’re both calling your attention! Think of them as your personal mindfulness coaches.

Intermediate: Next try to notice how you feel while noticing how you’re moving. Doing one without the other doesn’t count, so pay attention. And be careful of controlling or shutting down the feeling, even if it’s “f’ing tired” or “like shit”. If your mind is doing it’s job trying to notice everything at once, it should be too busy for judgement. I can write this in a sentence, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to do. I suggest trying this step when you’ve remembered to do the first exercise at least three times that same day.

Advanced: This is really ninja, but go ahead and try – notice that you’re moving, what you’re feeling as you move and how you’re feeling as you move. Actually, this isn’t ninja at all, this is Dance. But don’t let that stop you!

[spacer height=”10px”]The exercise is not an answer…[spacer height=”5px”]

…it’s a way of posing a question and listening to what comes up.

Take some time with it, and while you may not come out the other end considering yourself a dancer, you’ll certainly emerge with a better picture of how peaceful or not your relationship with your body is. You might even find clues as to where you’re ripe for a change in dynamic – if you need help picking them out, I’m here to help. In any case, try it out and please report.

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I’m also ripe and now ready to re-open my private practice to a few select new clients. If my way of working with your body and cultivating health in your life is speaking to you, let’s speak us two (or three, I also work with couples)!

What makes you one of the select?
1. You’re serious, in your own special way of course, but enough to commit to a process and not assume that dropping in now and then at your convenience or only when crisis looms is the way forward.
2. You’re hungry for peace, thirsty for pleasure and willing to sit at the table with your pain and look it in the eye. I’ll create and hold a beautiful and safe space for the feast.
3. You’re not only open to transformation, you’re haunted by the thought you might die without experiencing it. And while you understand that no one can make transformation happen for you, you know that you need to be witnessed, held and sometimes guided in the process to move forward.
Contact me using the form below and we’ll start with a conversation.

Love,

Ophra

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February 9, 2018
October Breathe Deep Workshop in Brooklyn focuses on Stress Relief
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Breathe Deep

Sunday, October 11
The Grand Room at South Oxford Space, Brooklyn
138 South Oxford Street, Brooklyn, NY 11217
6:30 – 8:30 PM
$40
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Breathe Deep is a workshop in ways you can use your breath to relax and release tension from your body quickly and effortlessly, so you can avoid stress build-up, stay out of pain and manage your energy levels with ease.

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Learn to tune into and access your breath as an effective strategy for improving your comfort, energy and focus throughout the day.

Your sharp focus on detailed tasks and bright screens invites shallow breath, and your days require so much focus it’s easy to miss that you’re hardly breathing at all. At the end of the day when your head hurts or your back and shoulders are killing you, it’s tempting to berate your body for failing you and look for a pill to fix the malfunction. Unfortunately this rarely works for actually feeling better.

This workshop is here to offer you a far more effective strategy for actually feeling better, quickly and easily, and simple tools for easily applying it to your everyday life.

Discover the secrets of full and connected breathing and catapult yourself to a new level of comfort and performance.

The gentle movements and guided meditations of the Breathe Deep workshop make for some of the simplest, most practical and effective techniques for significantly improving and maintaining your health and wellness, not to mention your focus and stamina on a daily.

For lovers of immediate gratification, come see just how quickly and pleasurably you can energize and relax your body, mind and spirit. And then do it again and again with the fancy skills you pick up.

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All of which make this workshop by far one of the most valuable experiences you can give yourself.

But what makes it over the top great is the the small group size and intimate setting that Ophra creates, making sure that every individual can benefit from her incredible store of knowledge and warm care in a personalized way.

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Which means that SPACE IS EXTREMELY LIMITED!!!
If you can’t afford to miss this workshop, make sure to Register Now

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Sunday, October 11
The Grand Room at South Oxford Space, Brooklyn
138 South Oxford Street, Brooklyn, NY 11217
6:30 – 8:30 PM
$40
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October 2, 2015
Love After Brooklyn (a story in Dance)

I left Brooklyn three times in the past year, each time more definitively. By the time I’d officially given up my beautiful space on Dean St at the end of February, the heartbreak was so tangible that I was actually diagnosed with a broken heart by two cardiologists.

My 11-year love affair with Brooklyn was deep and passionate. That’s the longest I’ve lived in any one place my entire life, and it’s the first place I truly created a home for myself in.

But in order to make life in Brooklyn work, I increasingly had to sublimate my deepest passion – my fiery longing to dance. Worse, part of me started to believe that it was a doomed relationship, that dance was a lover I would never be allowed to hold, and I buried my sadness in busy-ness.

Moving out of Brooklyn was really moving towards that fire again, pleading with it to come back to me. I put my business aside and for several months didn’t see any clients or bother with many computer tasks, while I gently went about rekindling my love affair with dance.

I’ve had to be careful not to smother my fire with expectation or bury it under the weight of the past. And I’ve also had to fan the flames of the fire by investing precious resources without any demand for results other than a deepening connection to the longing to be together, dance and I.

Throughout all of this, there’s been one particular Rumi poem that I’ve found myself turning to over and over again (from Birdsong, translated by Coleman Barks) ~

TRF2W Long Dock – by Craig Chin

The way of love is not
a subtle argument.

The door there
is devastation.

Birds make great sky-circles
of their freedom.
How do they learn it?

They fall, and falling,
they’re given wings.

I’ve written before that I’m a professional faller, I teach people how to fall with grace and thrive in dynamic situations. So I took the leap myself and fell into the fire of my love for dance.

If the journey hasn’t been entirely easy or comfortable, it’s been a deeply moving and sometimes ecstatic lesson in the power of surrender.

Connection and Surrender have been the at the core of my dancing since April. The lessons and gifts along the way have been overwhelmingly beautiful. Here’s a truth I now know with every cell in my body:

Remember to keep moving towards what you love, no matter how fast or slow, with ease or difficulty – it’s the greatest contribution you can make towards a better world.

And here’s a glimpse of my rekindled love affair with dance, through photos & video, starting with an upcoming performance this Sunday and working back to April:

This Sunday, 8/23 – if you’re up for a summer adventure in the Hudson Valley, Craig and I (aka The River Flows Two Ways – dance & ambient guitar duo) will be doing a unique site-specific performance at the beautiful and haunting St. Margaret’s Orphan Asylum in Red Hook, NY this Sunday, 8/23. This abandoned historic home for girls will be full of art and life at this weekend’s pop-up event, Dog Dayz organized by the Red Hook Community Arts Network.

It’s family friendly and free. And there’s a great ice cream shop next door! We’ll be performing hourly, on the half hour, between 12:30 – 3:30 PM.

You can find directions and more information here.

This past Tuesday, 8/18, I hopped on the train to NYC to take part in this beautiful and loving tribute to the great Anna Halprin, who turned 95 this year. Nine of us met at Washington Square Park in the early evening to take part in a score organized by Laura Colomban and featuring dancers from Los Angeles, Europe and South America.

The beautiful video below was filmed and edited by Alysia Mazella, from our July 25 performance at the FAST.BACK. exhibit at Newburgh Last Saturdays. Jane Rigler, a dear friend and an incredible flutist, joined Craig Chin and I for the first and second of three sets.

https://vimeo.com/136833904

If you’re curious to see more, follow these links:
1st set, short: https://vimeo.com/136833903
1st set, long: https://vimeo.com/136315715
2nd set, long: https://vimeo.com/136318826

I spent a good part of the Spring and early Summer up at Minnewaska, at the gorgeous Awosting Falls, exploring movement and connection to nature with Teresa Smith’s Earth Body project. The project started in May and culminated in three public showings on the weekend of July 17. It was nothing short of cathartic to be rehearsing and exploring amidst such beautiful and majestic nature, and my other collaborators were sensitive and inspiring in so many ways. (Photo by Teresa Smith)

In June I snuck into Brooklyn one Saturday evening to perform an excerpt from my Duchamp-inspired piece that’s been in the making for over a decade now. I called it “The Bride Loosens Up”. Around 10PM, in the backyard of a house somewhere in BedStuy, with dance performances unfolding in fits and bursts outdoors and in in support of my colleague Rebeca Medina’s upcoming dance project, I came out in a white dress, took the silk handkerchief out of my mouth and let my voice rise from my belly before sliding into a big hole in the ground. It was dramatic, and funny, but it was entirely undocumented. Until the Bride rises again…

And finally, here’s a short video from the April performance that started it all, at the Art About Water event, my first public collaboration with guitarist Craig Chin under the moniker The River Flows Two Ways. You can find more videos on our YouTube channel:

Love,

Ophra

August 21, 2015
When I Looked Death in the Face, This is What I Saw

This article was originally send as a newsletter to my list in May – to join the mailing list, use the field on the right.

A lot has changed since I wrote you two weeks ago – flowers have come and gone, temperatures have climbed and worlds have shifted internally – but I haven’t forgotten my promise to follow up and tell you more about what I learned when I took time to face death.

If you read my last email, you know that just over two months ago I was (mis)diagnosed with a heart condition that could cause me to suddenly die at any moment, and precisely two weeks ago I was told, based on extensive testing by a carefully chosen doctor, that I was just benignly irregular after all.

I could and probably should be pissed at the first two doctors who were so quick to send me to the operating table, but the truth is that I’m increasingly grateful for that crazy diagnosis precisely because it brought me so close to death and forced me to ask some difficult questions.
Here’s one that proved to be especially fruitful:

If I die today, what would I regret?

There was a lot of tuning in to my heart happening at this time. The answer it gave me changed my life profoundly.

I’ll tell you right away what the answer was not: even though I would have loved to see such and such a project take off, or to taste this or that kind of success, and to make one or the other dream come to life, none of these things would have stopped me from going to my grave feeling that I’d lived the best life I could live.

And that’s not because I haven’t had my fair share of challenges, pain and disappointment, it’s because I’ve never let failure or hardship stop me from following my dreams.

But there’s one thing I hadn’t given myself, something that no one but me could possibly give me, and when I thought of dying without experiencing it, I tasted regret:

I had yet to live a single day in which I accepted myself fully, as I am.

In the quiet of my new home, in the abyss between the life I’d been living and the life I was seeding – and hoping intensely to be able to grow – I was alone with myself. That open, quiet space allowed me to see so clearly that the source of most of my stress and worry wasn’t “life in the city”, or “financial strain” or “professional challenges”, it was ME.

My self-identity was completely tied up with my need to pressure, berate, and cajole myself to do the “right” things in the “right” way at the “right” time. And my willfulness to succeed in this task was stealing my chance at life away from me.

This became my prayer, and my one and only goal:

To just be. And for that to be enough.

Whether I’m being productive or useful in any way, or not,
Whether I’m doing something “well” or “messing it up”,
Whether I’m making the right choices or heading in the wrong direction,
Whether I’m saying the right things or pissing someone off,
Whether I’m in a great mood or feeling like shit,
Whether I’m full of energy or not feeling much like getting out of bed,
Whether I’m feeling limber and juicy or hunched over in pain,

To live in the state of knowing I am enough, precisely as I am, faults, blindness, weaknesses and all.

And at least for one whole day, or even a few sweet hours, to taste life from a place of inner peace, knowing that I’m part of a much, much bigger whole that needs nothing more from me than to just be.

That was and still is my burning desire. The longing it’s woken up in me has given me a taste of strength beyond anything I’ve known… and I’ve known strength!

I want to say more about this strength, because it is something you can train for, and you can cultivate it most efficiently in and through your physical presence. So I’ll come back to it in the next newsletter, but for now I’ll leave you with a resounding message that came through for me from my meditations on death:

Your judgment means so very little in the big picture. Whereas your presence to things as they are, and most of all to your experience of life as it is, is your best chance at living fully.
Presence is far more passive than you imagine. In order to be truly present and available to life in its unfolding, you have to have two things:

The courage to do less.

And the longing to be more.

Neither one is necessarily comfortable, but together they are the key to your magic powers.

So I’m grateful for your courage to long and be uncomfortable on the way to greater things. And I’m sending you love and joy on your way there,

Ophra

May 27, 2015
What the experts diagnosed me with and what it says about my health

Helloooo

I’m over here. Looking over the Hudson, marveling at the late April snow.

It’s been a while since I’ve written, the break in my blog flow was as unexpected as today’s snow, though I’d call what triggered it more of a massive earthquake than a little flurry.

It’s a good story, I’ll give you an outline for now since I have a feeling I’ll be sharing a lot more in months and even years to come…

On February 28th I said a heartfelt goodbye to the studio on Dean St. in Brooklyn that served as my home base for many years with one last Breathe Deep workshop, the biggest the studio has ever hosted, and a late night dance reverie whose energy is still reverberating in the Brooklyn ether. Here’s a pic of us at 2AM, dancing to the amazing grooves of Salieu Suso on Kora and Kevin Nathaniel on Mbira (photo by Fred Hatt):

I packed the moving truck the next day, unpacked it the day after, and flew to Israel to visit family the day after that. That’s me, a gal on the move.

And the movement didn’t stop once I got to Israel, with a year’s worth of skipping and twirling to catch up on with my nieces and nephew, dance events and family visits galore.

But I did take a pause out of my busy schedule to go see a cardiologist.

I’ve had an irregular heart beat for a long time, and there’s no denying that the past two years were ones in which I pushed myself to my limits. My partner Marcel had been nudging me to get my heart checked out for a while now (what with a sibling with a history of heart issues), and I finally agreed. In Israel I had my mom’s help in getting a private appointment with a top-notch cardiologist, and that’s how I found myself hooked up to an EKG.

Oh my first EKG, how you changed my life forever.

So. For reasons beyond my technical understanding, the renowned doctor diagnosed me with a very serious congenital heart condition that puts me in constant risk of sudden death and requires an immediate implant of a pacemaker.

Said doctor suggested that I have the surgery immediately, before leaving the country the following week. When I politely declined and said I’d like to look into the matter further, he assured me that I was not only misguided, but a threat to everyone around me, as I might faint and push an innocent bystander into traffic at any moment. I tried to explain that I’m a professional faller, I’ve mastered forms of dance that are based on managing disorientation, and that since I haven’t fainted on my feet since I was a wee baby I was quite sure I’d be alright. But there was no one listening.

I went for a second opinion a few days later, another renowned cardiologist, the head of the department at the other big hospital. He asked me who gave me my first opinion, looked at the EKG, and quickly confirmed: I was seriously ill and in grave danger, my only hope was a pacemaker, ASAP.

Needless to say my life was thrown into a tailspin.

Luckily for me, I really am a professional faller, with a penchant for balance even in the most disorienting circumstances. And dance has always been my magic spell for sprouting wings when I need them, so I kept dancing.

Meanwhile, back home – a new home, not yet entirely familiar – I began organizing health insurance, researching cardiologists, and most importantly, contemplating death.

Contemplating death brought me some serious epiphanies, I’ll share the most poignant one with you next week. For now, I’ll stick to the guts of the story.

It took a month to get an appointment with the cardiologist of my choice (more soon on the importance of proactive choice in navigating our health care system@!) That appointment was last week. My stress test was this week. And my follow up conversation with the doctor was just now, as I was writing you this note.

In between, I’ve been spending a lot of time with my hands in the dirt, walking along the river, and resting up. It’s amazing what a little rest and nature will do for the heart, mine kept whispering to me, you’re just fine, even better than fine.

Turns out it was right. Or more importantly, it turns out the experts in Israel were wrong, very, very wrong. I just received confirmation that I don’t have a congenital heart disorder, I have athlete’s arrhythmia, aka a benign irregularity (yup, that’s me, benignly irregular :).

Apparently the doctors who looked over the results of my stress test were downright impressed, I’m in excellent condition and along with my echocardiogram, my heart is officially healthy.

Hurray! And here’s why I could have told them that:

Just look at the amazingly diverse, creative, sensitive and absolutely brilliant community of people I’m surrounded by, with so much love and mutual respect amongst us!

And then there’s my ability to constantly generate energy to invest in the people and projects I’m passionate about, to lead the life I choose even in the face of significant challenges and resistance.

And most of all, I’m not just moving around a lot, I’m moving into greater awareness and alignment and always towards change and personal growth.

If that’s not a healthy human, what is?

What exactly is it that our culture deems healthy?

And are you accepting the criteria and the diagnoses without question?

More importantly, are you willing to measure them up to your personal experience and question both your own conclusions and those of the experts for the sake of coming closer to the healthiest, best life you can have?

Those are a few of the questions on my mind, and I’d love to hear your thoughts, .

And of course there’s more to this story, but I’m going to stop here for now.

I’ll be starting to see clients again soon, and if you sense that it’s time to regain agency and create more health and strength for yourself, fill out the form to your left and I’ll be in touch shortly.

For now, I simply want to wish you a very bright and bountiful Spring. Don’t forget to sow the seeds of your hopes and dreams. And know that I’m more grateful than ever to share this precious moment in time with you.

April 24, 2015
Teeth Brushing & the Art of High Performance Living
A funny thing happened on the way to writing you this article about how to use the most banal of daily activities, brushing your teeth, as a supreme exercise in tuning your whole day for mental and physical fitness.

I sat down in front of a blank screen page, placed my fingers on the keyboard, and with no idea where to begin, watched these words type themselves:

Why Not Sneeze, Rose Sélavy?

I was as surprised and puzzled as you might be. For one, this is a piece about brushing teeth – a voluntary activity you engage in with regularity – not about sneezing, an involuntary action the body does once in a while. And for two, well, what in the Hoo Ha does Marcel Duchamp’s Readymade conceptual art piece have to do with you and your quest for high performance living?

Hoo Ha indeed, I figured it out! The art of the Readymade, that’s what its about.

Duchamp revolutionized art and culture as we know it with his Readymades, pre-existing objects that simply by virtue of choice and a repositioning of perspective, became art (remember the urinal known as “Fountain”?).

Brushing teeth, my friends, is a Readymade for those of us cultivating the art of living out our highest potential.

If you’re not an art lover, you can leave all that behind and simply consider the practical implications of repositioning your perspective on the daily activity of brushing your teeth for the sake of greater physical and mental fitness.

Unlike a lot of conceptual art, I’m going to give you some clues as to how and why this is so. But before I do that, let me clear the air by getting two assumptions out in the open:
1. I’m assuming that you brush your teeth at least once a day?
2. And I’m assuming that whether or not you confessed to yourself or your world that you had any “New Years Resolutions”, the recent celebration of ending one cycle and beginning the next awakened in you, if only momentarily, that deep seated desire to be better: to yourself, in your work, to others, etc…
Don’t worry, no need to give yourself away. But no need to fear, either! Just because statistics show that you’re almost as unlikely to keep your New Years Resolutions as you are likely to experience tooth decay, doesn’t make either exercise futile.

Here’s how brushing your teeth and resolving to be better can come together to make this year the one in which you achieve the greatest mental and physical health and fitness with the greatest amount of ease. (And maybe even pleasure – I have a client who’s seriously thrilled by the ritual of brushing her teeth, may that juju rub on us all for the sake of our oral health.)

First, there is one prerequisite other than brushing your teeth: you need to be interested.

Now this is no small task – in fact, it’s the whole if it.

Let’s face it, brushing your teeth day after day, year after year, is boring. Unfortunately, so are articles about New Years Resolutions, even if they are about something you know you need and want, like cultivating mindfulness.

Which is why this is actually an article about Readymades and the craft of transforming your life with a little conscious choice and shift of perspective into an artful escapade.

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Part One: How To Get Incurably Interested in Brushing Your Teeth

If you’re not with a toothbrush in hand at the moment, use your imagination or your incredible memory until you are and ask yourself any of these questions, conveniently broken for you up into conceptual categories:

EFFORT
1. How much force are you using?
2. Can you make it easier and still be as efficient?
3. What would it take? Going slower? Faster? Less pressure? More Pressure? How much effort do you really need to do the job right?
4. Where is the movement coming from? Your wrist? Your elbow? Your shoulder? Your center? Your feet?
GROUNDING
1. Where the hell are your feet, anyways?
2. Are they on the ground? Evenly?
3. Are you standing still? Are you dancing? Are you choosing to stand still or dance?
4. Are you shuffling at the same rhythm as you’re brushing? And does this rhythm suit you today or is it recycled from yesterday?
APPROACH
1. Are you always coming at your teeth from the same angle?
2. How often are you changing angles? Are you aware of when and why?
3. Is your brushing rhythm drone-like, staccato, dubstep?
4. Did you choose this rhythm or are you spinning broken-record-like?
PRESENCE
1. Are you really brushing your teeth or are you actually reading your emails, straightening up your apartment and composing dialogue for later in the day?
2. Are your teeth even there? If so, how do they feel?
3. Can you feel the shape and volume of the individual teeth?
4. Can you feel the spaces between? The gums above and below? The deep crevices behind?
5. And most importantly, ARE YOU BREATHING?!
Now you may be exhausted just reading all these questions, but I assure you that this list is nowhere near exhaustive. Pick just one of these lines of inquiry and watch the questions invent themselves.

Whatever you do, make sure it’s fun. If you’re not interested, notice what you’re really interested in while mechanically performing this requisite task – that may be the most illuminating inquiry of all, especially if you’re feeling the boredom of mechanical, requisite tasks taking over your life for more than just the three minutes you brush your teeth.

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Part Two: How To Transform Interest into Strength and Vitality

If you’re wondering what you’ve gained from this exercise other than a new perspective on just how involved (and interesting) brushing your teeth can be, I’ll tell you:

You’ve just gained invaluable perspective on the state of your being today and on the nature of your habitual patterns and how they may be affecting you in the bigger picture of your life.

Take any of the questions above and replace “brushing your teeth” with “working on such and such project” or “dealing with such and such relationship”: are you using too much force? Are you coming at it from diverse angles? Are you grounded and in sync with your body’s rhythm or are you maybe a little more wobbly and likely to step on toes than you realized?

Your teeth brushing ritual can be the best oracle and personal advisor you never knew you had: did you find your sweet spot this morning, the perfect balance between force, ease and efficiency? If so, this might indicate it’s a good day to take on that extra challenging task you’ve been putting off. Were you tired just picking up the toothbrush? Chances are this means it’s a good day to take it easy, move a little more slowly and leisurely.

Did your mind squeak with stiffness as you tried brushing and noticing at the same time? It’s a good day for a yoga class. Did you have so much energy that you nearly brushed the enamel off your teeth? Put your sneakers on and go out for a run or get yourself to the gym or a dance class.

You can even take it one step further than observing and deducing what you need to do be at your best – you can use these three minutes as a high-performance calibration exercise.

Is this a day you need to be particularly grounded? Pay attention to your feet. Do you need to warm up the methodical, detail oriented part of your being for today’s tasks? Brush until you’ve felt yourself attending to each and every individual tooth. And so on.

Just like that.

You don’t have to add any extra activities to your already packed morning, you just need to show up when you step up to the sink to brush those teeth and voila, your capacity for observing and integrating your physical presence and approach to what you do throughout the day is exponentially improved.

Of course, learning how to observe your body’s habitual patterns, how to deduce what you need in order to be at your best based on those observations, and how to do the work of calibrating your body so that it serves your highest purpose from day to day and year to year is truly an art. And like all forms of art, it takes a combination of focus, dedication, guidance and inspiration to develop.

That’s what I’m here to offer you, so you can show up at your highest potential and share your gifts with the world.

This year, I’m opening up a very few spots for those of you who are ready to bust out of mechanical functioning and invest in the art of high performance living to work with me privately, in a deeply supportive and transformative format.

If you’re interested and inspired, I invite you to sign up for a complimentary consultation, so we can discuss your needs in detail and see if working together is the right choice for you.
January 9, 2015
New Years Wishes

[spacer height=”20px”]A vital, healthy 2015 to the adventurers and seekers of the Force & Flow family!

I sent this email out to my mailing list yesterday, and I’m sharing it on the blog for those of you who don’t get me in your inbox (it’s easy to remedy! just look up at the top left widget and you’ll see a simple sign up form).

Never mind “happy” for the coming year, I’m aiming right for JOY and wishing you the same. And pleasure and ease, too, even as you scale the heights of your greatest challenges and descend to the dark roots of your dreams and dilemmas.

Here’s another wish much greater than happiness that I have for you – that you find the generosity and compassion towards yourself to pause in the discomfort. That’s where the riches are and where the root to every transformation lies.

As much as I love toned muscles, they’re only a flimsy metaphor for the far more vital and powerful strength that comes from being present to the life that flows within you – even and especially through the discomfort.

And you might not hear it frequently enough, so I want to say Thank You.

Because for every discomfort that you’ve been willing to face instead of push aside, for every painful pattern that you’ve been willing to make the time and effort to begin unraveling, you’ve made a substantial contribution to paving a new path, not just for yourself, but for everyone who’s life you touch. If you take a moment to acknowledge this, chances are you’ll find the strength to do a lot more of it in the coming year/s.

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Presence, Strength & Vitality

with Joy, Ease & Pleasure

and the Courage and Compassion

to pause in the discomfort…

so you can harvest the hidden

treasures that lie within,

and discover a sustainable,

never-ending supply of energy

for growth and transformation.

[spacer height=”20px”]This is my wish for you, and for all of us on this path to reaching our highest potential and experiencing a world which reflects our highest nature.

It’s also what I’m here to help you do, because we all need support and it may just be that my way of dropping down and becoming more fully present to the experience of your body is part of your way out of your pain and into your power.

If you want to talk about how I can serve and support you in the New Year, click here, fill out the form and we’ll connect!

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With love and gratitude,
Ophra

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*That beautiful pic above? It’s by Jacki Dickert, one of my favorite photographers these days, taken of me on one of my favorite days of 2014, dancing in the woods with some amazing colleagues.

January 1, 2015
Is stress ruining your holiday season?
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Learn how to push, pull and vibrate the stress and tension out of your body.

Come to this two-hour workshop cum holiday party for your body, and learn potent and effective techniques that you can use from day to day and year to year to help relive stress and tension.

We’ll be getting loose and relaxed with self-massage and acupressure, breathing and toning, and release techniques to make your body, mind and spirit say ahhhhh.

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[spacer height=”10px”]Have you been a good friend and lover to your body this year?

If you think there’s a better way to nurture your closest relationships than running around in search of pre-fab products and pretty packaging, you’re right. This holiday season, spend time nurturing the closest relationship you have – with your own body – and give both yourself and someone you love the greatest gift of all, the gift of self-care.

Among the things that only you can give yourself, a healthy lifestyle is golden, and all the green drinks in the world won’t keep you healthy if your body is in constant stress mode. So take your health in your hands – literally – and learn how to move through stress and move stress through your body so that you can experience the kind of relaxation and relief that make you want to live a long, healthy life in the first place!

[spacer height=”10px”]Give your body what it needs to let loose and find relief the natural way…

…and avoid the crash into fatigue and pain that wears you down and sends you running for cover of meds and beds.

The self-massage, release and acupressure techniques that you’ll learn in this very special evening workshop will serve you for life, and also give you immediate relief and pleasure.

This is the perfect time to pick up and sharpen your tools for feeling limber and light as you step into winter and the New Year, and to discover some potent secrets for relaxing and releasing tension from your body quickly and effortlessly.

[spacer height=”10px”]And if that’s not enough, this year there’s a special bonus – something to sing and shout about!

Use your voice to vibrate the stress out of your entire body with a special toning circle:

Katie Down, musican, music therapist and the leader of our long-running Sound Bath series will be joining us for part of the evening with her magical Sruti box to lead a toning circle where you’ll get a chance to discover how powerful using your voice can be for releasing the pent up stress and tension in your entire being.

[spacer height=”10px”]You’re already crazy busy, so don’t waste any more time being slowed down by stress

You may be overwhelmed with things to do before the end of the year, in which case this workshop is likely the most efficient, and not to mention pleasurable, two hours that you spend this December. Things never go fast or easy when we’re stressed out, and sometimes just a little bit of time taken to relieve the stress can save you an exponential amount of time and energy.

Come get what you need, with all of Ophra’s expertise and individualized guidance at your service! Don’t miss this opportunity to unwind with 2 delicious hours of mindful pleasure and relaxation for your body, mind and spirit at the gorgeous Actors Fund space on Hoyt St. in Brooklyn.

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Who wouldn’t want to sign up for an evening as packed with pleasure as it is with useful tools and information? Save you spot quick, and one for a friend too – it’s even more affordable if you come together!

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Tuesday, December 9

7:00 – 9:30 PM

@ The Actors Fund Arts Center
160 Schermerhorn Street @ Hoyt St., Brooklyn

$75 before Dec 3
(coupon = EARLY BIRD @ checkout)
$99 After, $177 for Two
$125 at the Door

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Learn powerful and effective techniques to:

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Ophra Wolf is a mind-body educator, healer and mover extraordinaire. She’s bringing together an incredible array of knowledge – from the mechanics and anatomy of dance, yoga, and pilates, to the energetics of qi gong and mindfulness of meditation and movement improvisation – to deliver a workshop packed with practical and accessible information to help improve your everyday life.
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- Your spot in the workshop is not guaranteed until we’ve received your payment.
- We will issue a full refund minus a $10 processing fee for all cancellations made within 7 days of the workshop.
- We will issue a 50% refund for all cancellations made 2-6 days prior to the workshop.
- Cancellations made 48 hours or less prior to the workshop are non-refundable.
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- Comfortable shoes and clothes to move in.
- A bottle of water.
- Optional: a notebook, drawing pad, camera… some kind of mneumonic aid.
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December 2, 2014
Shopping For Health and Vitality?
[spacer height=”15px”]Hello High Flier, have you taken time to ground and replenish your energies recently?

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You’re invited to turn off your high speed hustle for a couple of delicious hours, and tune in to a transmission of practical information to help you slow down, release tension, and experience pleasure in your body and spirit.

The cold days have arrived but you’re still in high heat gear, spinning your wheels at top speed to finish projects and fulfill obligations.

Maybe you’ll be done in time so you can be present for the holiday merriment, but how present can you really be and how much pleasure can you really take in if your body is tight and heavy and your spirit is fatigued?

Not nearly as much as you could if you were truly relaxed, breathing the moments in deeply and feeling grounded and centered within yourself and in your constellation of friends and family.

Which is why it’s time to Breathe Deep, to invest in some quality DIY Stress Relief time, and learn how to get pleasure and relief from Partnering…

So that you can actually celebrate all that you’ve accomplished this year without feeling guilty about what you’re not doing! And so you can set your goals and intentions for the New Year from a place of renewed vitality and relaxed focus.

All this can happen very easily and organically, if you only you take a little bit of quality time to tune into your body.

And these workshops are here to help you do just that!

To offer you a sure fire sign that it’s TIME to take care of yourself, and give you a clear map to getting off the road to a winter of frustration and fatigue and on to the path of health and vitality…

On Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday evenings, Dec 8, 9, & 10, Force and Flow is offering three opportunities – Breathe Deep, DIY Stress Relief, and Partner Stretching – to not only relieve you’re the stress and pain you’re carrying now, but to learn the skills for staying loose and limber for months and years to come.

They’re all taught by Ophra Wolf, the spark behind Force & Flow and a five star teacher and healer – which means you get the expertise, care and attention to meet you at your most brilliant self and take you higher.

Space is extremely limited at this point, and the Early Bird Discount ends SOON, so get in on the good times NOW.

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Register ASAP to save your spot… and one for a friend who needs it as much as you!

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Breathe Deep, 12/8

Breathe Deep –

December 8
- Step into Winter with the tools to feel limber and light and start the holiday season off right with secrets for relaxing and releasing tension from your body quickly and effortlessly.
- Transform tension, pressure and rigidity into support, ease and spaciousness by experiencing your breath more fully.
- Location Shen Tao Studio, 303 Park Ave South, Suite 312 (@ 23rd Street)
- 7:00 – 8:15pm
- Register Now
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DIY Stress Relief, 12/9

DIY Stress Relief –

December 9
- Join us for this two-hour workshop cum holiday party for your body, and learn potent and effective techniques that you can use from day to day and year to year to help relive stress and tension.
- Location The Actors Fund Arts Center, 160 Schermerhorn Street @ Hoyt St., Brooklyn
- 7:00 – 9:30pm
- Register Now
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Partner Stretching

– December 10
- Look forward to an invigorating and playful evening packed with pleasure and practical tools for releasing tension and improving strength and alignment in your partner and yourself simultaneously.
- Location A.R.T./New York – Spaces @520 — 520 Eighth Avenue, 3rd Floor, Studio B
- 7:00 – 9:00pm
- SOLD OUT – get more info & future workshop dates
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November 27, 2014
Announcing the Spring Semi-Private Group Session!
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EXPERIENCE THE AWARD WINNING FORCE & FLOW APPROACH TO CORE STRENGTH

Connecting to Core

April 14 – July 13

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90-Day Semi-Private Group Session
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Dynamic Core Strength and Fluid Breath Connection

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Spring is here and your body wants to come out of hibernation mode and bloom into it’s full potential for pleasure and productivity – what better time to commit to your wellbeing and transform your pain and discomfort into renewed strength and energy?![spacer height=”10px”]
- Are you working hard at living a healthy, mindful life, but not seeing and feeling the results you’re spending so much energy on?
- Are you aching to get strong but find yourself tied up dealing with fatigue and aches that only get exacerbated when you try to “work out”?
- Do overcrowded and under-informed yoga, pilates and movement classes leave you feeling more tense and brittle than supple and centered?
- Are you ready for the kind of detailed information and personalized attention that can catapult you to the next level of comfort, energy, flexibility and strength?
- Do you love to learn and are you committed to opening your awareness, aligning with your highest potential and moving consciously through life?
Then this is your invitation to join a small group of brilliant, creative, and perceptive folks like yourself to experience the Force and Flow approach to holistic mind-body movement.

Our focus this session will be on finding the strength and flexibility that come from a dynamic and mindful connection to your core – there’s nothing as frustrating as watching your hard work make things even harder, but that’s often what happens when we “work out” without understanding the underlying connections of our body. CONNECTING TO CORE is about experiencing strength and alignment with ease and efficiency by learning how to connect and move from your center.

I’ve gathered a number of incredibly potent exercises from the worlds of Pilates, Yoga, Qi Gong and beyond, and cohered them in a systematic flow focused on helping you cultivate a connection to your core which will serve you in every single thing you do, from sitting in a chair to climbing personal, professional and natural mountains.

Take a moment to imagine what it would mean to you to have the energy, strength, flexibility and awareness to get the most out of the opportunities in your life? Who would you be if you could let go of held postures and tense positions and instead find ease in movement and organic strength? What kind of energy and awareness could you bring to the things you love?

Regardless of your background in movement, whether it be on a mat, in the gym, on the grass or even if it’s none at all, this upcoming session at Force and Flow is an incredible opportunity to develop the awareness and acquire potent tools for stepping into a healthier, stronger, more vibrant body. And with a maximum of five people in a group, you’re sure to get the personal attention that is so indispensable to your development and without which you’re likely spend a lot more time repeating the same mistakes and fighting off or giving into burn out.

Here are just a few of the benefits that you are sure to gain when you show up for yourself through this 90-Day CONNECTING TO CORE session:
- Learn to attune to your movement, avoid injury and cultivate pleasure and ease in your body.
- Have powerfully effective and simple tools for strengthening, centering, balancing, energizing and releasing tension.
- Have improved breath awareness and breath capacity, as well as the improved focus, presence and resiliency that follows.
- Experience dynamic alignment and tangible improvements in your posture, both in your body and in life.
- Feel more connected to your intuitive, reflexive mind and experience greater ease and confidence with others as you come to know it in your own body.
- Embody more strength, flexibility and agility as you navigate the challenges and opportunities in your life.
- And most importantly, cultivate a healthy, strong and sustainable long-term relationship with your body.
Here is what the thoughtfully crafted FALLING INTO BALANCE package includes:
- 10-weekly 75-minute semi-private sessions which encourage a steady, incremental development of your strength, flexibility and awareness.
April 14 – June 22
Choose a group
Tuesdays 6:45PM, Wednesdays 7:15PM, Sundays 11:00AM
- A private 60-minute session in which we will hone in on your specific questions and accelerate your development.
- An invitation to one of three Sound Baths, our acclaimed sonic meditation series.
- A 3-hour Walking Workshop in late June and/or early July
- PLUS: a gift for a friend to join you at the workshop for free!
- 30% discount and priority booking on additional private or bodywork sessions throughout the 90-days
- Personalized tips and assignments to keep you engaged in a sustainable, pleasurable way throughout the week
- Audio recordings of all group sessions
The cost for all this is only $840 or $280 a month! And according to my long time students, the benefits are priceless. A payment plan is available to break up the cost, and spots are extremely limited at this point – if you think you are a good fit for this program, fill out the application form below and we’ll get back to you ASAP with registration information.

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March 19, 2014